By: Lucas Kompare, LMFT
Inauguration Day is upon us, and it is clear that emotions are high. Many express feeling scared, angry, self-conscious, or ecstatic; all of which are valid and okay to feel. But what is it about our political climate that is so triggering? Why do so many find it difficult to respect people with differing opinions? This blog helps all of us be able to approach political conflicts with a simple communication skill; that is to come closer together through empathy and validation despite our differences.

As a couples therapist, a major point of contention I hear about in the therapy space has been the stress the results brought on individual families and relationships. Spouses that have different political affiliations or values may be faced with increased conflicts surrounding who they support. Even their children may be feeling the stress of the election results despite not being voters; as they may be exposed to political conflicts at home, at school, on TV, or on social media.
Empathize When my clients bring up this struggle, I typically start by explaining what validation and empathy actually mean. The idea behind validation and empathy is not about saying, “I agree with you,” it is about saying, “I understand you.” We are trying to connect directly with the other person's emotional experience, not agree with their perception of events around them; in other words, “I can see why you would feel that way,” as opposed to, “you are wrong because of ABC reasons.” Always remember that empathy is not about facts, content, or being right; empathy is about understanding feelings and values.
Focus on shared values: No matter how divisive this time can feel, we can always find common ground. Highlight mutual goals, such as improving the community or ensuring fairness, which can foster respect and understanding, even when political opinions diverge.
Practice active listening: Give the other person space to explain their perspective fully, without interrupting or immediately countering. Show curiosity about their views, asking open-ended questions that encourage deeper dialogue and may help you understand the root of their beliefs.
Name the pain: Acknowledge that it's okay to hold differing political views and that the relationship doesn’t have to hinge on alignment. Be honest about your fears around your connection being impacted and work together to decide how to handle political topics.
Election emotion is real and people on both sides of the aisle are experiencing strong reactions about the results. We are all human beings who have our own values and emotions. Win or lose, elections are about coming together as Americans and doing our part in the democracy that has been built for us; and all of us deserve to be heard and respected through empathy, validation, and compassion.
If you are seeking a space to process your emotions and improve your relationships, reach out to Graceful Therapy at (630) 733-9108 to set up an appointment with one of our highly qualified therapists!
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