Mediation & Discernment Counseling: A Path to a Peaceful Family Separation

And what to do if you're not sure you're ready for that step yet

Separation and divorce are among life’s most emotionally charged experiences. But while the end of a relationship may bring pain and uncertainty, it doesn’t have to bring chaos, conflict, or court battles.

Family mediation offers a more peaceful, respectful, and collaborative path forward—one that prioritizes communication, protects children from unnecessary distress, and helps both partners make thoughtful decisions for their future.

But what if you're not even sure you want to separate? That’s where discernment counseling can come in.

What Is Family Mediation?

Family mediation is a voluntary, confidential process where a neutral third party (the mediator) helps separating or divorcing couples reach agreements on important issues like:

• Parenting plans and custody arrangements

• Division of assets and financial responsibilities

• Communication and co-parenting expectations

Unlike court, mediation is non-adversarial—it’s not about winning or losing. It’s about finding solutions that work for both people and keeping decision-making in your hands, not a judge's.

Mediation is particularly helpful for families with children, because it encourages cooperation and reduces conflict—two things children deeply need during times of change.

Not Sure You're Ready to Separate? Consider Discernment Counseling

Sometimes, one or both partners aren’t sure if ending the relationship is the right decision. There may be doubts, mixed feelings, or a sense of being stuck. This is very common—and it’s exactly the kind of situation where Discernment Counseling can help.

Discernment Counseling is a short-term, structured process (usually 1–5 sessions) designed for couples where one person is leaning toward separation and the other wants to keep trying. It’s not couples therapy, and it’s not about solving relationship issues. Instead, it’s about helping both partners gain clarity on what they really want—and whether there’s a path forward together or apart.

In many cases, couples come to mediation only after having made the decision to separate. But if you're still in that uncertain place, Discernment Counseling can help you pause, reflect, and move forward with confidence—whatever direction that may be.

A Kinder Way Forward

Whether you’re already clear that it’s time to part ways or still working through that decision, know this: There are peaceful, respectful options available. You don’t have to fight. You don’t have to navigate it alone.

Mediation allows you to preserve dignity, minimize harm, and build a cooperative future—especially if children are involved. And if you’re still deciding whether separation is the next step, Discernment Counseling gives you the space and support to make that decision thoughtfully, with both voices heard.

Ready to Talk?

If you're navigating relationship uncertainty or considering separation, I’m here to help. Whether you’re ready for mediation or want to explore discernment counseling first, we’ll take the next steps together, at your pace, and with care.

Therapists that are trained in Discernment Counseling: Hannah Auch, LSW, Lucas Kompare, LMFT, LPC, Holly Long, MCoun, Shannon Carlson, LMFT

Therapists that are also Nationally Certified Professional Mediators: Kate Fish, LMFT, PMH-C & Kristina Long, LCPC